So, if you've read some of my previous posts, you'll know that I'm a Christian. Well, I love God and Jesus is my best friend, but even Christians get lonely and wish to find someone to spend the rest of their lives with...I'm no exception! Since all these famous dating sites have turned into booty call sites, I decided to join one that was made for the Christian community. (Hopefully people haven't joined to find booty calls on this site!)
I joined ChristianMingle.com this morning and they offer this personality-kind-of test called "The Color Code," so I took the survey and my results are as follow:
Congratulations,
Esmeralda, you are a BLUE personality. The Core Motivation that drives you
through life is "Intimacy". It is important to note that this does
not mean sexual intimacy. BLUES need connection - the sharing of rich, deep
emotions that bind people together. As a BLUE, you will often sacrifice a great
deal of time, effort, and/or personal convenience to develop and maintain
meaningful relationships throughout your life.
BLUES
seek opportunities to genuinely connect with others, and need to be understood
and appreciated, especially by their partner. Everything you do as a BLUE has
to be quality-based, or you won't do it at all. You are incredibly loyal to
friends, employers, employees, and above all to your significant other.
Whatever or whomever you commit to is your sole (and soul) focus. As a BLUE,
you love to serve and will give freely of yourself in order to nurture the
lives of others.
BLUES
have distinct preferences and are the most controlling of the four
personalities, although they may not acknowledge (or even realize) the fact.
Your code of ethics is remarkably strong and you expect others (not only your
partner and those closest to you, but everyone) to live honest, committed lives
as well. You enjoy sharing meaningful moments in conversation with your partner
as well as remembering special life events (e.g. birthdays and anniversaries).
Find Out About You
Before you read
your profile results and begin to learn how The Color Code will help you relate
to potential matches more effectively, there are five fundamental principles of
The Color Code that you need to understand.
THE COLOR CODE IS MOTIVE-BASED
You need to
know that The Color Code works and is the best tool on the market today,
because it is based on human motivations (why you do what you do) rather than
on human behaviors (what you do). Behavior (for example, the way you act in a chat room
or on a date) can be imitated, copied, or faked, but if you know the true
motivation behind the behavior (what is driving the person to behave as they
do), you already have a very clear picture of what that person is all about.
YOU ONLY HAVE ONE CORE MOTIVE OR "COLOR
CODE"
Your
personality type is driven by only ONE of four Core Motives, represented by the
colors:
RED (Core
Motive = Power, or the ability to move from "a" to "b" as efficiently
as possible)
BLUE (Core
Motive = Intimacy, this doesn't mean sex, but the need to connect, share
feelings, and build relationships with others)
WHITE (Core
Motive = Peace, or calm even in the midst of conflict; clarity in the midst of
confusion)
YELLOW (Core
Motive = Fun, or always enjoying the moment)
These are the
four basic personality types that I will teach you about. However, very few
people have ever scored 100% in one single color while taking the profile;
therefore, you will find that your Core Color is often influenced by traces of
the other colors. That is why no two WHITES, although driven by the same Core
Motive of Peace, will ever be exactly alike.
YOUR COLOR WAS PRESENT AT BIRTH AND YOU CANNOT CHANGE
IT
You were born
with your core personality color intact (ask any woman who has given birth to
more than one child and she'll tell you that her children had different
personalities before they had drawn their first breath), and while parts of
your personality do change over time (for example, you may have not been born a
good listener, but you have learned to become one), you cannot and should not
try to discard your Core Color in an attempt to trade it for another. If you
were born a YELLOW, you will die a YELLOW, but you can add to yourself any
strength or any limitation of any color to your core self.
ALL COLORS ARE OF EQUAL IMPORTANCE
No personality
type is better than another. Each brings equally valuable, albeit, different gifts to
the world.
ALL COLORS ARE NEITHER GOOD NOR BAD
No personality
type is innately good or bad. Many people who do not know The Color Code may
assume that all BLUES must be good and all REDS must be bad, for example. This
couldn't be more false. The colors are neutral and individuals are free to
choose how they will use their strengths and limitations to leave either a
positive or a negative legacy in life.
Why You're Hot
YOU PUT YOUR PARTNER/RELATIONSHIP FIRST
People like to
feel important, especially to their significant other, and you have the natural
ability to make that happen. As a BLUE, you tend to be very selfless, and your
first thought is always "how will this affect my partner?" You would
be willing to sacrifice going out with friends or engaging in an activity that
you enjoy on your own to do something less exciting with your significant other
- not that they would necessarily ask you to - but just knowing you would is a
great feeling.
YOU MAKE EVENTS MAGICAL
When planning
something such as an anniversary dinner or a birthday party, you don't like to
go through the same old routine that everyone else does. You have a flair for
the creative and you seem to have a sense of how to create an ambiance by adding
special touches that you know will be perfect for the occasion. For example,
you might have personalized gifts or
you might recreate something meaningful that happened previously in your
relationship. You make ordinary things extra special, which is very endearing.
You are
Unbelievably Thoughtful.
You emanate
quality and purpose in all that you do.
You give your
heart wholly and willingly.
You are a rock –
Stable and dependable.
Your capacity
for emotional depth is remarkable.
You are a class
act.
Why You're Not
YOU TEND TO BLAME OTHERS FOR YOUR UNHAPPINESS
As a BLUE, you
hold high standards for yourself and tend to have unrealistic expectations of
yourself, your partner, and how things "should be," so when things go
wrong, you turn to others, such as your partner, as the source for your
unhappiness. You might say to him, "if only you were more attentive /
caring / interested / loving (you name it), this wouldn't have happened."
This is obviously not a great way to maintain somebody's affection.
IT'S HARD FOR YOU TO RELAX (YOU REQUIRE A PURPOSE TO
PLAY)
BLUES tend to
be overly guilt-prone, and so if you are doing things that are not purposeful
by your standards, you probably feel guilty about it. Ergo, you tend to require
a justifiable reason to just play and enjoy life - which usually defeats the
purpose and makes it feel unnatural or forced to others in your life. Your
tendency to be high-strung in this way can be alarming to a potential mate who
is stuck wondering if you'll ever be able to calm down enough to enjoy a life
together.
You can be
self-righteous.
You tend to be
moody.
You can be
unforgiving.
You can be a
perfectionist to a fault (untrusting).
You can be too
controlling.
You may give
with strings attached.
Your Needs
Now that you
know how others see you as a potential partner, you should also know that there
are certain things that you subconsciously need from your relationships in
order to feel fulfilled and happy. These are your very own little hot buttons.
When you find a partner who can push them for you, you may just fall head over
heels.
YOU NEED YOUR PARTNER TO UNDERSTAND YOU
As a BLUE,
driven by Intimacy, you seek deep, personal connections with your partner. That
doesn't just mean that you want to understand everything about them. You
wouldn't feel that your relationship was complete unless he understood you
completely either. You should look for a partner who can move beyond
superficial conversation and is willing to understand every bit about what
makes you you.
YOU NEED TO FEEL APPRECIATED BY YOUR PARTNER
You love to
give openly and always go the extra mile to please your partner. All you desire
in return is that he appreciate the effort that
you make to do what you do. You
will be happiest in finding someone who is comfortable and open in expressing
that appreciation and who doesn't take your 110% effort for granted.
You need to be good morally.
You need general acceptance.
Your Wants
YOU WANT SECURITY
You like
stability and security in your relationships and in life in general. You want a
partner who communicates in word and deed that he is committed to you so that
you always feel on stable ground in the relationship. You also want someone who
will establish a solid (and safe) lifestyle with you and not force you to take
high stakes risks, although, I would recommend that you be open-minded in this
area, because some risks will really do wonders to enhance the quality of your
life.
YOU WANT AUTONOMY
It almost seems
paradoxical, because while you do seek meaningful relationships in your life,
and enjoy the company of others, you also enjoy your independence to do what
you like to do. This is true for most BLUES because you spend so much time
caring for others, connecting with them, and worrying about making things
perfect, that you like to have your free time not to have to worry about those
things.
You want quality in all aspects of your life.
You want to reveal insecurities.
LOVE POTION NO. 9
So we've spent some time talking about you and what makes
you more (or less) attractive to the opposite sex, now the burning question in
your mind at this point probably has something to do with what you can do to
create some positive chemistry with each of the other colors. Knowing that the
person you're interested in is a YELLOW, for example, you can know that there
are certain things that you can do to better pique their interest in you;
likewise there are other things that just may put you so far out of the game
that no love potion could ever save you.
Of course, in order to sustain a positive relationship
with any color, you must be sincere while following these tips. Manipulation
will get you nowhere, and is the worst possible thing that you could build the
foundation of your relationship upon. A strong relationship will come of you
becoming a better person through increasing your self-awareness, acting out of
clean motives (legitimate reasons for doing things; or acting in such a way
that makes win-win situations possible), and stretching to get over yourself in
a way that allows you to sincerely incorporate these tips so as to make it
about your partner and not about yourself (i.e., getting what you want first;
selfishness).
Turn-ons
Top 5 BLUE Turn-Ons:
- Being sincere and genuine.
- Appreciating and understanding them.
- Being thoughtful.
- Expressing interest in personal details.
- Behaving appropriately and being well-mannered.
Top 5 WHITE Turn-Ons:
- Accepting (and supporting) their individuality.
- Being kind.
- Creating an informal, relaxed atmosphere.
- Being patient and gentle.
- Introducing options and ideas for your interactions.
Top 5 YELLOW Turn-Ons:
- Being flirtatious.
- Offering praise and adoration.
- Reinforcing interest with physical contact.
- Promoting creative and fun activities with them.
- Accepting some playful teasing, joking, "comic relief."
Top 5 RED Turn-Ons:
- Being competent.
- Demanding attention and respect from them and others.
- Being direct, brief, and specific.
- Presenting issues logically.
- Supporting their leadership instincts.
Turn-offs
Top 5 BLUE Turn-Offs:
- Being non-committal.
- Becoming emotionally unavailable or dismissive.
- Demanding spontaneity.
- Promoting too much change.
- Abandoning them/Being disloyal.
Top 5 WHITE Turn-Offs:
- Forcing confrontation.
- Being cruel or insensitive.
- Being domineering or too intense.
- Forcing immediate verbal expression.
- Demanding leadership.
Top 5 YELLOW Turn-Offs:
- Ignoring them.
- Controlling their schedules/Consuming their time.
- Being too serious or sober in criticism.
- Being unforgiving.
- Expecting them to dwell on problems.
Top 5 RED Turn-Offs:
- Embarrassing them in front of others.
- Arguing from an emotional perspective.
- Being slow and indecisive.
- Taking their arguments personally.
- Waiting for them to solicit your opinion.
How do I match?
Okay, Aphrodite , now that you have the power to sweep a
man off his feet by using your knowledge of The Color Code, the next item that
we need to address is who do you want to be with? More specifically,
with what color(s) should you seek a serious relationship?
The beauty of relationships is that any color can date or
marry any color. We can all be compatible if we work to be so. The advantage
The Color Code gives you is the ability to know what you're getting in a
potential mate, and what you can reasonably expect and can not reasonably
expect from a relationship with each color. That's not to say that people can't
change. Just because by nature, you wouldn't expect a WHITE spouse, for
example, to be verbally protective and assertive that he couldn't develop that
ability. It would be unnatural, however, to him and may be difficult for him to
do. Further, some people don't want to change and are happy with themselves as
they are. Isn't it better to know what you're getting and be happy with him as
he is, instead of deciding to get involved and that you will be able to mold
him into what you want him to be after you're together for a while?
With that said, click on one of the colors below to learn
about the typical nature of your potential relationships and decide which would
bring you the most happiness and fulfillment in life.
BLUE-BLUE Relationships
WHAT TO EXPECT:
PROS
They both share
concern for quality and detail
They are both
extremely committed to the relationship
They are very
dependable in completing projects or tasks
CONS
They can get
caught up in the details at the sacrifice of essential productivity
They are very
perfectionistic and therefore hard on themselves and each other
They can be too
serious and feed each other's depression
BLUE-WHITE Relationships
WHAT TO EXPECT:
PROS
They will not
get in each other's way or block the other from doing what they need or want to
do
Both can
operate very well on their own
They are
typically more low-maintenance and require little entertainment from each other
CONS
BLUES are
emotion-based in thinking and WHITES are logic based in thinking
After the
initial stages of the relationship, they tend to lose passion over time
The WHITE can tire of
the BLUE'S need to control and the BLUE can grow frustrated at the WHITE'S lack
of communication (quality and quantity)
BLUE-YELLOW Relationships
WHAT TO EXPECT:
PROS
They share a
strong emotional connection
Together they
have a high capacity for problem solving,
creativity, and high quality lifestyle
The BLUE
provides the quality and detail which is complimented by the YELLOW bringing
the energy and capacity for risk-taking
CONS
They can become
too interdependent
Emotions can
sometimes get in the way
They may grow
resentful toward each other if the BLUE tries to be too controlling and the
YELLOW becomes too noncommittal
BLUE-RED Relationships
WHAT TO EXPECT:
PROS
Great Loyalty -
BLUE to relationships, RED to task
RED provides
vision, BLUE provides quality
Both are highly
dependable and follow through on commitments
CONS
Both seek to
control the other, BLUES with emotion, REDS with logic
They don't
readily accept and understand each other
BLUE is
emotion-based in thinking and RED is logic-based in thinking
I'll be studying this for a while and will try to post my findings and thoughts on these results in another post...soon, but no promises! I haven't read any of the report yet, so if it makes me look like a total...WITCH...it's wrong! Lol.
